Mental Health Check-In
Hey, how are you?
no really…
Quarantine szn
With lockdown in full force around the world, and with everyone in the same environment day in and out, it’s no surprise that people are experiencing a hit to their mental health. From being independent, motivated and driven, many will be experiencing low moods, depression, stress, lack of motivation, etc, and might not know where to turn.
Although we know staying in is in our best interest, a lot of us aren’t built to be in confinement. You might feel like you’re a criminal in your own home with such limited places to go. Yes, we may have a pass for one form of exercise outside a day (UK), but if you’re trying to stay at home and don’t have a garden or at least a balcony, it can be hard to get any sort of fresh air and it will take its toll.
For many, people will be learning a lot about themselves at this time… the relationships with their family etc but more importantly, themselves. For some, there may be a realisation that they have been distracting them and this lockdown has forced them to face their demons. This can become a dark place very quickly if not needed. For others, this is a time where family time has been prioritised for life and broken relationships are slowly being mended. I hope this is the case for most: That this is a time of community and closeness. Unfortunately, though, this might be the worst time ever.
Since we’re relying on social media and technology to get through this epidemic, it’s easy to focus on things that may have you comparing yourself… “they seem happy,” “I wish I was a productive as X”, “why me?”
What can we do to boost our mental health during COVID-19?
As much as we think most people are ok, the truth is a lot of people are suffering. Those who were once active must stay idle, those who use socialising as an outlet feel lonely, those with family in different places feel separated and the list goes on. I know people are struggling even though they don’t show this. I know because I’ve asked and checked up.
Minor things play up more in your head and with little to do, these small things can eat at you. I won’t lie and say I’ve had a dandy time… This lockdown has had its consequences for me, and I’m not ashamed to say I’ve had a low day here and there. Generally, my mental health is pretty good and when I do feel it slipping, I G-check myself like a boss. It is warming to know that there are people I can reach out to in times of need, however, I appreciate that not everyone will have such a system around them. Luckily there a load of resources available, particularly during COVID-19. For example, Body & Soul charity is offering live streams every Wednesday at 11:30 am for those aged between 16-30.
I know I won't reach everyone, but if I could reach out to one, that’s good enough for me. Below I have a message for you all, along with helplines, advice and more.
To those on the front line:
THANK-YOU! I know times aren’t easy, and you feel under-supported and overwhelmed but you’re doing a great job! If no-one told you today, let me tell you now that you are incredible. Please please, stay safe, ask for PPE, work where you feel safe and do your bit… but I urge you to put yourself first. As someone who also works in the care sector, I know that it is in your nature to be caring and selfless, but this is not just a small cold (as you know), so please please do not put yourself at risk if you have reason to believe you aren’t qualified enough, confident or in good health yourself.
This includes mental health. Death may be a part of life and something we experience in this line of work, but at this extreme it’s not something you signed up for. You’re not superhuman either! Some may be better at handling these things but that’s them. If you feel like you need support, please reach out to your association and the support they are offering. I know the government is doing its best and there has been tremendous support from companies offering discounted/ free services for those in the NHS such as free hotels for those who are unable to go back to their families due to exposure. Use these where necessary and don’t be afraid to speak up or ask.
There are a few services available right now that you can have access to. Heather well-being is offering FREE therapy and wellbeing support for NHS staff on the frontline. Crisis support for NHS staff is also offered on the Body & Soul website. TALKWORKS are offering priority support for NHS and social care workers here. Other links include Frontline, North East Ambulance Service - who are offering 3 months of free mental health resources to workers and their families and online healthcare giant Headspace have partnered up to offer a FREE meditation during this crisis (also see details here).
As you go out each day, I pray you remain in good health and stay safe. You are appreciated, you are incredible, you are saving lives.
To those working from home finding it hard to balance life:
Where to go? Plage de la bathroom or getaway avec l' imagination. I get it. The options are limited rn and many will be experiencing daily headaches from increased screen consumption and lack of fluid intake... not to mention the lack of fresh air and movement. It may be hard to find your routine, and if you are recently unemployed, it’s easy to feel demotivated.
Time management is key here and a routine is important so that you can transition better into this lifestyle and re-transition into daily life. I have written a guide on how to stay productive during self-isolation which many have found handy. Feel free to use the tips and implement them.
To those looking after the vulnerable and those with mental health problems:
I know the support is limited right now, crisis teams are under strain and home visits are reserved for the high-risk but you’ve got this! Keep in regular contact with the support systems available to you, update them of any changes and do your best. As long as you’re keeping them safe in the home that is the most important task. Look after yourself too! Take some time to listen to music, meditate, run a bath and relax where you can. You may feel isolated but you’re not alone. Healthwatch Southwark has offered support and advice on their website, the NSPCC have offered advice and support for parents and carers during this time and a load of resources, links and help can be found here.
To those in toxic environments:
This is likely to be a very scary time for you, and potentially very dangerous. If you feel like you are ever in immediate danger please call 999. If you cannot for any reason speak, please press 55 after the call is connected. This will alert the operator and the Police will be sent to your location.
Abuse is not limited to one thing and includes emotional, sexual, domestic, neglect, exploitation, financial, bullying and many more. Sadly, since COVID-19 there have been increased levels of reports of domestic and other abuse by 25%. This has also caused a great demand for charity intervention such as Shelter UK and other shelters and hotlines.
If you or anyone you know may be at potential risk, please please report! Most councils will have additional support put in place and information for your borough with resources. Important numbers/links to include (UK):
National Domestic Abuse Hotline: 0808 2000 247
Refuge UK (24/7): 0800 2000 247
Mankind initiative: 01823 334 244
Childline: 0800 111 111
Samaritans: 116 123
Women’s aid online chat: www.chat.womensaid.org.uk
To those away from family:
Now is the time to utilise all these apps and platforms. Although you may not be able to physically be with them, we are blessed to be in a time where internet is more accessible and phones have advanced features such as FaceTime (Apple products) and Duo (Google/Android). Other apps that may be handy are WhatsApp, Zoom, Houseparty, Instagram, Snapchat, Facebook, Twitter (most social medias tbh), Skype, and many more! Remember to check up on your grandparents and those who are vulnerable and those unable to navigate the internet for online shopping etc.
To those who have lost someone:
Stay strong. Your life may feel like it has been rocked and turned upside down and with this virus preventing a proper burial, I really feel for you. Life may feel confusing right now and you’re probably angry, upset and experiencing every other emotion under the sun. If you are someone who has sadly lost someone due to COVID-19, my heart bleeds for you. They are not just another number, but a person with a story, a life. Share and celebrate their life when you feel ready. May the rest in perfect peace.
I wrote a post based on my own experiences of grieving a parent along with ways to deal with the process and support available. I hope it brings support in your time of need.
To those trying to maintain fitness and health:
I know that in some countries you are still allowed out during the day to exercises, but these days may be limited. Try to exercise from your home so that you can cope and maintain a routine should you go into a complete lockdown. Food may be your biggest challenge right now! I know it is for me. When you’re anxious it’s easy to stress eat and so food preps have helped me when I haven’t got the time to cook a fresh or healthy meal. If you need help with this, feel free to check out my post on how to meal prep like a pro!
Exercise can be hard if you don’t have a garden which is why many may turn to local parks and spaces. If you would like to stay in and exercise, now is the time to follow those Instagram fitness pages as most are offering Live workouts or routines to follow at home. For the ladies who want to keep that booty perky for after quarantine slay, you can follow my post: Booty boost - 5 glute exercises you can do at home.
For those who want a nice little daily challenge, you can try my 30-day fitness challenge or look online for other challenges. Gyms may be closed and payments suspended (my bank account thanks you), but many are offering virtual classes and motivation to keep you fit. Check out your gym’s website for further details.
Lastly, if you simply want to maintain good health, check out my post on how to boost your immune system from home!
I hope this has helped someone. Things are uncertain and scary. You may not need help or support (go you), but if all I offer is a reassuring voice, let that be my gift to you. Although I may not be an expert, you are always welcome to contact me. Sometimes all we need is a little support or an opportunity to vent. You don’t have to carry the world on your shoulders alone.
As always, I extend my love to you all and wish you good health. Please feel free to share this with anyone you think will benefit or my pervious mental health post and always remember to be kind! If there are any services you think should be added, please hit me up and I will update it here. The more help available, the better.
Stay safe, stay home!
Liz x